Sustain-a-what? That's right, Sustain-a-table.
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Last summer our new friends
Erin and
Richard had me over to pick their pears (from which I made jam!) and Erin started telling me about how where they used to live (they're also recent transplants to Port Alberni) they used to have weekly dinners with friends that would be like dinner parties, but low key, vegetarian, and would rotate from house to house. She asked if I would be interested in doing something like that. I probably screamed YESSS!!! but within a few weeks our first Sustain-a-table was born (don't ask me how I came up with the name). And pretty much every single Sunday afternoon since then the host of families that have shown up have each taken a turn at hosting and making dinner for each other.
So, why do we do it?
Me and my family participate in Sustain-a-table like it's the lifeblood to our very existence. We rarely miss a Sunday and I love to host and most often go overboard when we do! For me, feeding people and being fed is crucial to my understanding of community building and sharing my home with "outsiders" (who are now "insiders") as a way of promoting dialogue, community activism, and healthy eating. Also, from a feminist perspective, Sustain-a-table is the perfect way for me to take my beliefs around activism in the kitchen and making it a public, political, act. The food I choose to make (local, vegetarian?), the way I cook it (SLOW), and how we serve it (reusable plates and napkins, people sitting on the floor or wherever they can find space) culture jams with the perfect Dinner parties women in the Western World are expected to throw as a way to entertain the cohorts of busy career-oriented husbands.
Almost a year in, the other reasons I live for Sustain-a-table just abound. First being that this ramshackle group of strangers are now our bonafied REAL DEALS friends!! wahoo! There are also a handful of babies for Seth to play with and the spin off projects are inspiring and kind of unreal. We've started two book clubs, a food buying club (bigger buying power equals cheaper goods for wholesaling and buying from farms), Sweet Avenue was started by members who met and know each other through Sustain-a-table, and everyone kind of works together to make things happen in our communities, families, and jobs. Talk about a quick way to build a solid network of friends and cohorts in a small community where it feels like it's harder to get "in".
So, how do I start my own Sustain-a-table?
My sister recently started a Sustain-a-table in Victoria and it's about 6 weeks in and going strong. Basically what you have to do is make a list (in your head on paper) of about 15 people who don't really know each other but you know would say YES to coming to your house for a FREE dinner on a specific night (we do Sundays, she chose Sundays, pick whatever night works for you and a few of your guests, the others will start to organize their lives around that time, that's dedication). Tell them what you're making and when they ask if they can bring anything say NO! (unless you want to do BYOB because it's OK to share beer costs!) Once you have a list of people, cook a tonne of food (within what you can afford!). We've had spaghetti and salad nights, and homemade sushi nights, and even a Caribbean Feast! Sometimes there is lots of beer and wine and the night goes on and sometimes it's just dinner and some dessert and people take off and get ready for their busy weeks.
You can invite people by phone (recommended) or email or twitter or facebook or whatever. But remember to remind them on the day of in the AM (or the day before). When you have everyone over for dinner (try to do something non-intimidating the first dinner to encourage future hosts!) and while everyone's eating loudly and awkwardly ask, "so, who wants to host next week?" Someone will come forward, promise! If they need help cooking or with $$ maybe two people can split the night, but remember there's no pressure to EVER host and you can just keep coming for free dinner!