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| Your Rated PG Rollergirls at PG PRIDE 2012 |
This is
Pride Week in Prince George! First there was the Official Pride flag raising by Mayor and Council (7 present) Wednesday afternoon. Then Robyn won 'dick bubbles' at Drag Queen Bingo the same night. We've since had a burlesque show, a drag show, parade and festival today at City Hall, and a huge dance party (now), the LGBTQIA fun in P.G. continues! Pride Week in P.G. is getting huge and awesome. I love every minute of it.
For a city with a sordid gay rights past, we've come a long way. We've risen from Ave Maria refusing to get rid of anti-gay literature (a long time ago but it sparked public outcry and eventually gay community-building for P.G.) to a past Mayor trying to shut down Pride Events to Queens doing drag on the steps of City Hall. Yeah P.G....I love it here!
A GIRL WALKS INTO A BAR (The politics of gay bars as safe spaces)
Bitch Magazine No.55 (2012)
by Sophie Cansdale
-Okay, so in the next bit I've used the word 'gay' to mean LGBTQIA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual). Why? Because this acronym (though correct and wonderful) is so fucking awkward that it makes my brain hurt when I read it, so with full respect to all the possible sexualities within the LGBTQIA community, I apologize.
-I used the word hetero to mean heterosexual(s) and this is probably not appropriate especially since in all fairness, I should have then used the word 'homo' to mean LGBTQIA folks. I did this because it is late and I think that it is not 'fair' that heterosexuals rule the world so they/we can handle being slagged a bit.
-Full disclosure:
1) I love calling heteros 'Gaylords' because its ironic and hilarious.
2) I also think saying 'Let's go, lesbo" is funny because it rhymes!
3) I'm a retard, I know. (also not PC but nostalgically ironic maybe?)
Anywho, read on!-
I just read this article in Bitch and it blew my mind. Sophie named my troubling feelings about heteros inhabiting gay spaces for fun and out of safety's sake. A couple derby seasons ago, we had all of our after parties at the local gay bar here in P.G.. It was awesome: we got the money from the door, got to dance to great music, and no one got raped. This is actually how I promoted the parties to roller girls: "It'll be fun, you might get your boobs grabbed but you will not get raped, I promise". As the organizer of the after parties, obviously, this was important to me. Our presence there was generally well received by the regulars and we always had a great time.
I never got rid of this unwelcome feeling, not that I didn't belong exactly (since everyone thinks I'm gay anyways), and not because anyone made me feel unwelcome but I guess that this space was special and for gay folks and that as a straight woman I shouldn't go there too often. I figure that the gay patrons fight really hard every day to claim space for themselves so they should feel totally at ease in their space.
I've generally prescribed to not attending all the Pride Week events mostly because I like to show my support for my friends and community but don't want the heteros to take over a special week. So for me, a good way to do this is to always go in the parade and bring my kid if I can (this was the Duck's 4th parade!), then hang out at the festival and catch maybe one other event. This year I missed out on the shows and stuff out of poor planning but I feel great to know that these events are going on and are successful. This shows me that the LGBTQIA community in P.G. is strong, self-reliant, and doesn't need a bunch of heteros hanging around. That makes me feel great!
Thanks PG Pride for being awesome!
Also, did you check out my costume? The theme was 'Phoenix' so I made
rainbow wings, a fire 'shirt', and a paper maché Phoenix head for my helmet. Hooray!